Exalt themselves in the
middle of a problem as it may sound impossible,
but the real problem is a shortcut for us to achieve
the goal, ennoble ourselves
means being able to face the problem, able to deal with the problem means making
ourselves become more respectable. although basically
every problem is difficult,
I have proved it,
even though you often scorned, mtk got
ugly if you've tried
very hard, certainly later, a miracle
will come to you who constantly focused process, and most importantly , you
believe that you were born to be great
We start with
what it is self-esteem, according to Professor Muhammad AS Hikam, self-esteem is
a human effort in
fighting for their rights and obligations,
while socially interacting
in social life. At the core of self-esteem is a power
struggle, an item that can not be
assessed with the material.
Self-esteem
is not inborn factor but a factor studied and formed throughout the life
experiences of individuals in relation to themselves and to other individuals.
This relates to the idea that dikutib Azwar Rogers (1979) who emphasized that
the development of self-esteem emphasize the importance of the social
environment. Herbert (in Anwar, 1979) argued that the concept of self-contained
self-esteem develops from childhood through the people who are considered by
that person. Self-esteem in a person also does not appear out of nowhere but
through the process and development. Initial symptoms appear self-esteem at age
2 years. but the formation more clearly and can be observed at the age of 4
years (Piaget, in Edwina, 1994).
Here are tips and tricks to grow and
improve self-esteem
1. Learn to always respect yourself. though sometimes others perceive your self
confidence is low but charge you that you are entitled to your life and your
most understand yourself.
2. Learn to like yourself. Liking yourself means accepting yourself for what it
is. and learn to develop its potential. See the positive side of yourself, adn
the most important thing ito be thankful
for everything we have.
3. Have a positive self image. it is related to self-acceptance. self image is how
you think of yourself. convince yourself that you deserve to succeed, you
deserve to be loved and appreciated, you are a special personal. Remember that
your self image mmpengaruhi your behavior.
4. Do what you think is important. even if you feel you are not able to because
of your shame and fear, force yourself to go through the process. apparently
self-assured that you are able to do so. to keep in mind is that the more we
are forced to through a process which is not bad, the more you expand your comfort
territorial area.
5. Learning to live independently, regardless of the other person, so you are
not vulnerable to rejection.
6. Do not associating yourself with failure or mistakes you make. cultivate in
yourself not to give in to the circumstances.
7. Have a true concept of self-esteem, that self-esteem comes from within and
not from outside ourselves. lies not in the material we get, we get the success
because success is only growing material and false self-esteem and can not last
forever.
8. Respect yourself, do not reject a simple compliment people are saying about
us. accept it and think to advance. be careful when you dibeak words like
"I'm stupid", "I did not get", "ne it's just a dream,
maybe not so real". toxic kata2 this will damage your self-esteem that you
get up slowly.
several factors that may contribute to the development of self esteem, namely:
1. Quality award
recipients as well as the attention one receives from significant others in their lives. In this process one
learns judge as he was assessed and
then be applied to develop themselves.
2. History of success
and achieved status and position
of a person in his life. This will form the foundation of self-esteem in social reality. Historical experiences are terrifying and considered
a tempest to determine
a person's self-esteem development
process (Bommer, inRetnowati, 1993).
3. Issues related to the aspirations and values obtained through one's
interpretation of the success of the experience modification. Success, power and attention is not directly and immediately received and perceived, but filtered
through a person's values and goals (Retnowati,
1993).
But in addition to using the above tips and tricks you should avoid:
1. Rejection from others.
2. Lack of appreciation.
3. Parenting is
wrong: too forbidden, too controlled, too obeyed,
too charged and
inconsistent.
4. Sibling rivalry.
5. Mistakes and failures are repeated.
6. Not being able to achieve the prescribed standards.
Whatever happens you should never give up on you still
believe there is a strong hand that held you
As
of now I really do not know what true self-esteem,
because what I feel right now is not enough to make it,
but I believe that the future of self-esteem On
the facts, then keep the dignity of oneself is
not easy. Enterprises that require
intelligence conscience. Conscience
must be sharpened in various ways, including through the always remembering
God at all times, clear the mind, heart and
assets owned, run by committed and rituals
and such. Such activities
should be trained and socialized as
activities to sharpen the intellect.
But apparently, the actual aspect is
particularly important to maintain the dignity of seseoprang is often
overlooked and even ignored. Consequently, all that has been achieved with
difficulty, such as education, wealth, rank, position, and others are
collapsing because of torpor conscience is concerned. That is, they are not
able to maintain the dignity of self-esteem that. Therefore, the intellect must
always be accompanied by intelligence conscience
.
So according to the law of attraction, if you are
sending a signal and it still emits a signal,
your wish will be granted, and do not say "no" to some things, but
say "could" because it can affect you,
I never had that
experience, when I saw my old school
HP, every time I see
my friends bring new
HP, I was going
to have one day, so I try and keep it
sought, so that one day I was able to arrange
for the purchase of
new HP, although it takes a bit longer,
is because it is the thing that I want is not the stuff that I need, also
the law of attraction states that whatever be your
wish, start to dream without any
capital, because your dream
is in line with your
business, live the dream as a dreamer,
so whatever you want,
send signals to
Allah Almighty
So
the conclusion that we can be, self-esteem is a power struggle, raising
self-esteem is actually a struggle to face the problem, because only by
fighting what we need will be met, we must have faith that what we believe,
will be realized in the future, this the law of attraction, we just send a
signal to Allah it will be fulfilled and it was bound to happen, so do not
hesitate to ask, ask a lot and stay focused process and endeavor
